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The Prompt: Play

“It is a happy talent to know how to play.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

I wouldn’t say I really know how to play¬†or be silly. I am quite a serious person, whether that is just who I am or as a result of my mental illness I don’t know, but that’s how it is.

I play with the dogs of course, mostly with TiLi because she’s the one who wants to chase toys, Rupert thinks he’s far too mature for that now! I throw balls for the cat too, and try to entertain her. The big difference between me doing those things, and most other people doing them, is that I always feel like a fool doing them. I feel stupid, I feel awkward, I feel like I will be mocked for it.

I do it anyway, of course I do, because TiLi and Tinks, and Rupert, all deserve to be played with, no matter how awkward I feel about it, but I do wish I could shake that feeling and really enjoy the silly times with them.

I wonder about my future too, should I have kids, will I be able to teach them to play? Will my feelings rub off onto them? I don’t want to raise uptight, serious children. I think it’s important to have a sense of humour in this world, I guess I realise how important it is because I don’t have one.

I’m not sure I’ll ever change, I’ll go through the motions but I’ll always feel like a prat, a numpty, a fool. And I know my life will be all the poorer for it. But how do you learn to enjoy playtime? Where do you start?

mumturnedmom

4 comments

  1. mummyshambles

    I love this, dogs love to play too!
    A sense of humour isn’t essential but I personally find it helps deal with a world that can be incredibly cruel.
    Good post.

  2. Sara | mumturnedmom

    This was such an interesting read for me because to be honest I’m not all that great at ‘play’. I can structure an activity, bake, do crafts etc., but if one of the kids wants me to role-play or do something really silly I have to overcome my feelings of awkwardness. I think that children simply don’t allow you to get away with letting those feelings take over though, you do it because they’ve asked you to! They have taught me a lot x Thanks so much for sharing with #ThePrompt x

    1. Mrs TeePot

      I’m glad I’m not alone! And also good to know that if I do have children in the future I’ll hopefully be ok at the imagination play.
      And I have to say, I think structured play is really good too.

  3. Sheri

    I love that word “numpty”! When I had my first child, I had to learn how to play. I was a tech geek, never even babysat, and when she was handed to me in the hospital, I said “Where’s the manual?” Anyway, I was one of those moms (and now grandmothers) that refused to talk baby-talk, but once she was crawling around, I found myself crawling around with her. I was home alone, and pretty soon, I was simply goofing off with her and she was giggling like mad. Having that reaction, and someone to do it with made it easier. As my girls became older, of course they wanted me to play with them. Mostly I observed and just did what they did (especially with Barbies-yuk), then came the park where I learned to play in public. I especially loved the swings, and still do (you might see me swinging by myself). If you didn’t grow up with it, it’s just something you’ll have to learn. I also had to learn to shed the what-will-they-think attitude I learned from my mother. I’m very lucky to have married a playful husband, so I doubt I’ll ever stop learning how to play (especially with five grandchildren now!). Try a little at a time, by yourself, just be silly…dance around the house in a goofy manner, make faces at yourself in the mirror, allow yourself to let go and laugh.

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